Are there any specific prayers you would suggest for Poco who had such an unlucky and tough life? She is dying now, and I am providing palliative hospice care to the best of my ability. I knew from the time that he arrived in my life that he had leukaemia, but he was fit and healthy. There is much you can do for Isabelle for the next few weeks. I am sorry for your loss and have some empathy with you as I lost my beautiful little Pixie last Aug. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and this lovely article. Warm wishes, David, My darling Trixie is a 15 0r 16 year old Maltese, Pomeranian mix. Belief in reincarnation. Rainbow Bridge refers to both the meadow and the adjacent pan-prismatic transit that connects it to Heaven. Would he have better off on the streets and never being rescued in the 1st place I ask myself? Buddhism in practice: north-eastern Thailand Buddhism in practice: north-eastern Thailand. I am so grateful to you having written this post. Warm wishes, David, Hi David, If we really love them, we should be trying to put aside our own feelings of grief and loss and do all we can to help them have a painless, peaceful and even positive death experience. Especially when connection with animals is one of our greatest energetic gifts in life. They are with us so briefly, really, but we shouldnt underestimate the impact of what we do for them, both in this life and in their future reality. I fed her twice daily, tried various foods (KD brands) and now she is not eating at all. I have lost both immediate human family members and dog family members, and the depth of my grief has been the same. Being in the animal welfare sector my focus is always on what is best for the animal and to keep human emotions and perceptions out of the equation but when its your own animal and due to the intense bonds between you and your pet it does tend to blur these lines. I have studied Buddism and so this touched my heart. I have been reading your blog and following the advice 100% since my loss 4.8.16Thank you it has been extremely helpful during my time of grief. I thought she had probably sent him to me to comfort me. This includes the ability to return to where we lived. He declined so quickly, though, that we were unable to choose home euthanasia for him lest he suffer more. Warm wishes and thanks again for your message, David, Thank you. . I hope his spirit visits me some time. I am so sorry to hear of Gemmas condition, but I know you will do all you can to take care of her in death, as well as in life, thereby setting her up for the best possible outcome for what follows. I left his body there for two hours. People that have lost their dogs, need to believe that the Rainbow Bridge. You can read the first chapters of all my books and find links where to buy themhere. And I am glad we did it; its a hard feeling to describe, but it felt important to say goodbye I feel like weve sent him away to the heavens., Additional reporting by Navaon Siradapuvadol, Follow Guardian Cities on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram to join the discussion, and explore our archive here, Thai crown princes poodle, Air Chief Marshal Foo Foo, has been cremated, Original reporting and incisive analysis, direct from the Guardian every morning, 2023 Guardian News & Media Limited or its affiliated companies. However, that has recently changed as a new market became apparent: beloved pets. I caused her death through my negligence and now I cant forgive myself. My doctor has been, well, shocked trying to figure out how on Earth I am coping this well with Patchos death, and is concerned I am concealing something unhealthy. She was such a cuddler always in my lap, under the covers, on my chest, on my shoulder I am so grateful for those feathers and for your words. Can you advise any further actions to ease her transition? He was 12 years old and had leukaemia and was very ill, but I know we did all we could for him and practising what is in your blog will certainly help him to the next realm. 1. Our karmic connections mean that we are not helpless! My personal opinion is that we should only look to euthanasia when all other options have been exhausted, when there is only one outcome to which our friend is heading, when all our goodbyes have been said and when, if we were to change places, we would seek this for ourselves. However, she rapidly declined and kept going aroumd the house howljng and then she squidged herself into a tiny space behind an open bathroom door. There may be days or at the most weeks left and I believe she knows how I feel. Dear Katygirl, I am sorry your post didnt appear because I was on holiday in Europe and have only recently returned. That means you can continue your most important practices after you have moved. Fou Fou always liked the good things in life. I look forward to learning more from you and sharing the wisdom I learn from the animals with you. My beloved Mr. Blue a 40 lb Poodle Beardie mix died last night at almost 19 years of age. It may be useful for your readers to know that many vets will go to your home to carry out the procedure which of course helps to reduce the stress on your pet, especially if they are not fond of the vet clinic. He sat in an empty room for a few hours and then came to me, sat on the arm of my chair and told me it was time. Scents that remind you of the animal. Warm wishes, David, Hi David In the case of cats and dogs bred to hunt in particular, if they are allowed to roam free, they can kill or maim other animals, so this Buddhist perspective would argue that it is our duty to prevent them from doing this. Photograph: Cory Wright, 'A ticket to the next life': the lavish Buddhist dog funerals of Bangkok, Varunthip Manthin and her daughter Phatcharakorn Likanrapichitkun during the funeral of their dog, Fou Fou. Buddhists believe in a cycle of death and rebirth called samsara. You can Unsubscribe at any time. They are so beautifully written and enjoyable. (@waylonlewis) on May 24, 2019 at 6:29pm PDT, In Mongolia, when a dog dies, he is buried high in the hills so people cannot walk on his grave. I had done everything I could to keep him pain free. his nation, his country. Create a Free Account & Get 2 Free Reads. I have read and re-read this numerous times as our sweet feline Indy was aging. ); its too long to include here, I guess, but I am sure if someone is interested she will be able to forward it directly to you. I have lost my family and my friends dont seem to understand my pain. Many thanks for your message, Cheryl, and sorry to hear about your loss of Bear. From a practical point of view, this means we can clear away our pets things. In the case of our cat, Mambo, we have left out his dry biscuits and water bowl, his favourite brush, and his litter tray. I would suggest a Tibetan Buddhist/vajrayana centre if you like the flavour of Buddhism presented in my blog. Love and Compassion alleviatesthe suffering I hope these rituals have helped him, but as you said, they have helped me too. I hope you found this blog useful! It can be a useful way to achieve healing for ourselves and the relationship between us and the pet too. I feel terrible for her. Abu, my beloved cat, passed away five weeks ago so Im dedicating him the Dharma practice on the next two weeks. Then I put it in a plastic container and preserved his body 48 hours with ice packs. However, I did not have access to pain medication and am feeling so guilty that I could not ease her physical distress through her long death process. Natural world, Country Life, and Pets. Buddhists believe that as part of the samsara life and death cycle, dogs and cats - as well as elephants and horses - can potentially be reincarnated as humans. Food is measured for caloric accuracy,and insulin injections are given twice daily. It just felt right. This is a critical time when you can, arguably, do more for her even than when she was alive. Thank you so very much for your kind and soothing words. Thank you Ann. I have at times used mantra while driving, of course while paying attention to driving. While it is possible for consciousness to remain in the body for more than 48 hours, this is only the case in the case of very experienced meditators. Her mindstream is what matters. Most pets probably do. Buddhists believe in life after death because the Buddha taught that human beings are each born an infinite number of times, unless they. When I came home, I knew things were not right. It takes 7 seconds to join. I am most grateful, thank you Pawesome Cats! Do not punish yourself. Youre right about making the time about your pet, and to make it a happy peaceful death. Dear David, would it be possible to use your post as it is here for our Facebook group called CDSI (canine diabetes support information) .this site has 3,500 members and growing daily. My guy must have felt that right up to the time he stopped breathing, because even after 2 doses of sedative, he still didnt let go fully until I told him it was okay to leave. My dear 1-year -old baby dog past away today. This article has helped me greatly, thank you!! After 2 surgeries, the first in Oct 2015 and as he responded well, chasing other cats up and down our street, eating well, etc I had luckily made the right decision. Can you give me any information on any Buddhist prayers/chants that I could do for my dog who was euthanized in November 2016. Learn more. For example, we may repeat the affirmation in our mind: By this act of generosity/love/compassion/kindness. Warm wishes, David. I tell her repeatedly that she is free to go when she is ready. I have written a book called Buddhism for Busy People as an introduction too you may find that helpful. Bucky was fortunate to die here at home, with me by his side, surrounded with love. This will be of benefit both to you and to your friend. His condition has been stable but that really means nothing. Patch gives a sign now and then, which makes me very happy. Thank you so much, my very old, beautiful cat Nivea is passing away from cancer and I have been beside myself until I read this article. ~ The 14th Dalai Lama. The heart sutra could also be used, especially the mantra. It sounds like you gave her a peaceful death and you can still help her now. I think this was his last life as an animal, so I didnt want to bury him. I wanted him to know how much he was loved, and so he could say goodbye to me and his surroundings that had become so familiar, and his home. But for the sake of others, as well as yourself, its important that you let go of this negative cognition and make yourself available to others, including the little puppy. Thank you so much for your message, Carmel, and so sorry to hear about your loss of Chloe. Im continuing my journey of being present with my Mr F, who is beating the odds with his cardiomyopathy. Read the introduction here! we have no bona fide animal saint locally at all .plus as well i hear than some police horses actually get taken to the lion cheetah park & get shot there then their meat is fed to the cats. Can you give me any suggestions? I was thinking about doing something like this and was looking for some guidance/feedback thank you in advance, Jillian, If you already have an altar, then adding a photo of your recently-deceased pet for the 7 week period would serve as a helpful reminder. But I will not bother you with more personal observations. If she is already in the bardo, I hope the practices outlined in my blog will be of benefit. By the time Im done I have such compassion for other drivers. I have enjoyed them so much. This has been a big lesson in consciousness, and my Misty has also taught me the most important lessons in life. My last trip before our farewell was just too much for him. Three of those realms are considered heavenly: Deva (heavenly), Asura (demigod) and Manusya (human), and the other three: Tiryak (animals), Preta (ghosts) and Naraka (hell), are considered to be hellish. My sweet dog passed just yesterday and I found your message very helpful. On this particular Saturday, those overseeing the pet funerals barely have time to draw breath as a steady stream of heartbroken owners turn up at the temple, clutching their dogs, limbs stiff with rigor mortis, in towels or boxes. We can continue to make offerings throughout the seven week period, in particular on every weekly anniversary of their death, when the greatest shifts in the bardo state occur. Warm wishes, David, Lost my seven year old cat Thor suddenly to misdiagnosis/renal failure last month. Once an individual has died, Buddhists believe they are reincarnated in one of 6 realms; heaven, hell, animals, human beings, Asura, or hungry ghost. Its just a fact of life hereYou may have heard that there are many speed demons on the autobahn here, and some like to get close while flashing the lights if youre not fast enough. I knew once we had the diagnosis that it wasnt his time yet, so we took him home for a few days. Thank you so much for your comment, Anna, which raises many key points. One Question that can Interrupt our Negative Beliefs about Ourselves. I felt like this dog, even though he was a street dog, must have been very good to have been loved by so many people who wanted him to have a proper funeral, said Saehan. My present kittie, Lotus, is 15 to 16 yrs old, and is showing signs of age, but is still eating well and moving about well. It is very difficult finding that balance without doubting your abilities or whether the decision was the correct one. So valuable.) Hold Oscar in your thoughts for seven weeks after his passing with warm intentions for his well-being. I also have received hundreds of letters and e-mails from people asking if their pets have survived death, and from people who believe that they have seen their dead pet's spirit. To recognize the interconnectedness of all beings Is to know peace! Tibetan Buddhism gives us practical tools to help us manage the death of a loved one, whether human or animal. We held her, spoke and sang to her, and I even managed not to weep too very much during the process (unbelievably calm for me). Peace and blessings to all animals, It immediately became the best read blog I had ever written. The temple now performs up to 300 a month, and with each funeral costing 3,000 Thai baht (70) for animals weighing under 20kgs (44lbs), and 4,000 baht for heavier animals, it is proving extremely lucrative. Much of the unhappiness surrounding death arises from our quite natural sense of loss. My greatest fault is that I cannot forgive myself or others. And then there are those who believe that the dogs' existence simply ends when they die. Before I could sit, Mr F walked in, hopped onto it and sat down. Thank you for your kind message, Cyrie! As youll be aware there is still so much we can do to help our loved ones in the weeks following their death, given the power of our karmic connection to them.//And what an auspicious name Agastya! Thank you for reading, Jo, I am so sorry for your loss, Jo. You did the best you could with what you knew at the time. The idea of rebirth has been around for a very long . He seems to be dealing with the situation just fine. Thanks for this post, really good to read about this perspective and contemplate it myself. I know its time, and I dont want him to suffer. Bardo beings are beings of thought and highly receptive to the thoughts of those with whom they have a strong karmic connection. He took ill on the Saturday afternoon, I took him to the vet that evening, he had a blood transfusion as his red cell count was very low, which sadly did not help. IT feels to me as if I havent seen her in years! Whether it be a pet or a fellow image-bearer, few things sober us like death. It is wonderful that you were able to provide those positive imprints around the time of her passing. Hi Anna, I am not aware of specific Buddhas relating to these realms, but given that all Buddhas minds penetrate all reality, animals and those experiencing other dimensions remain the focus of their love and compassion. Your free account lets you heart articles, follow authors, comment, Boost, and support Elephant's writers. Your strong connection with him may be profoundly beneficial to him as he moves on. To all who are grieving You are not alone. I have made small donations in honour of her and had online memorials dedicated to her. After weeks of thinking about this subject and asking advice from fellow practitioners today i made the decision to let him live at home. I work with a lot of people whose animals are in the dying process and the Buddhist way is perfectly in sync with the animal way. They rarely choose to sleep in that area now, and seldom do the two of them sleep next to each other. I look forward to reading more! This inlcluded getting the neighbours to leave their side gate unlocked in the evenings so we could bring him in for the night. Growing numbers of pet owners are demanding full-fledged funerals for their late beloved animal companions, leading to heated debate among Buddhist scholars about what happens to pets after they die. Thank you David! Pope Francis this week staked out his position in that crucial debate when he told a little boy whose dog had recently died that paradise is. And so, on a Saturday morning, Fou Fous body was brought to a small chapel in Bangkoks Wat Krathum Suea Pla temple, laid in a fuchsia pink coffin, set among a kitsch display of plastic flowers, and sent into eternity with the blessings of a monk. Your email address will not be published. Thanks again, Ktygirl. He must have been so uncomfortable. But sadly i did cry because i knew it was time. Warm wishes, David. Warm wishes, David. In honor of Riley I went to the local quilt shop and made pet beds for rescue dogs for the local animal shelter. Warm wishes, David. I just thought by not allowing him to see and feel how sad & devastated I was this would allow him to go into a deep sleep without any worry he was not coming back. She developed terminal kidney desease and the vet strongly suggested putting her down sever weeks ago. Thanks so much for this, glad I found it. ~ James, I appreciate your thoughts, thank you James. She was always by my side, followed me from room to room and when I left the house she would look for me. What science says. I grieve and beat myself up over the decision to PTS but I could not watch her suffer any longer the howling and constant wandering were heartbreaking and I could not help her. I am sure you are continuing to carry our practices for his benefit while he is potentially in the bardot for up to 7 weeks after death. (We all know that most Cognitive Behavioral therapy is not rooted in Western ideas! I am so sorry for your loss, Alexa. I had to put my darling girl to rest on July 28, 2016, so avoid any more suffering. She was the most loving, gentle and affectionate animal that anyone could wish for. Travel and Holiday. His face told me everything. I hope down the track you find some peace in your decision and I hope Charlotte is with you in a special way for the rest of your life. She was so loving and full of joy and I have deprived her of so much. If you or anyone has any kind and helpful advice, please, I welcome the assistance. Buddhism is one of the world's major religions. The new life is dependent on past actions and deeds. Have read your other ones about Rinponche. Thank you for this blog. Karma plays a large role in determining what happens to people after they die. Dogs break away from the pack. I said to him youve had enough havent you boy. Thank you once again for sharing this blog with all of us. All the very best on your Dharma journey and in your mission to help other sentient beings. BEFORE DEATH When our pets are in good health, the best thing we can do for them is to help them avoid creating negative karma. Represents a "dynamic vision of death and . Best wishes to you and your wife, and I am sure you will take comfort in remembering the special times you had with Mambo. I agree with you Kathleen. Suffering is caused by desire or craving ( t ); craving for pleasure, craving for continual existence (of oneself and those one loves) and craving for non-being (of that to which one is averse). So sorry for your loss, Beatrice. If you want more, grab a subscription for unlimited reads for $10/year (normally, it's 48/year, and the discount ends soon). So sorry for your loss, Gina. I chant and sing with her on my chest so she can feel the vibrations. I sang Om Ma Ni Pa Me Hum (and my husband even dosed off for a brief moment one last cat nap together). The doctrine of karma implies that souls are reborn as animals because of past. Ninja, a large mixed breed dog, causes a slight kerfuffle as he is too big to fit in a coffin; heis eventually laid out beneath a Mickey Mouse towel. Sincerely, I have been at home for a few weeks recovering from surgery and he was my constant companion and shadow during this time. Warm wishes, David. My two house-rabbits enjoy my meditation practise very much, they make the same sound with their teeth when I practise, as when I pet them, and they enjoy it the utter-most Jen, So sorry to hear of your dilemma, Jen. It is entirely understandable that you have such strong and mixed feelings. It has been an agony for me to have been faced with the euthanasia decision and my babys last day was filled with sunshine, love, cuddles, and a strange fast-forwardness in our communications She was so quiet and pliable in the moments leading to her death and afterward, her body seemed (as my vet said) two inches longer So much tension and pain held for so long Suddenly, with all tonus gone, her body reminded me of a cheetahs Two days after she died, two large white feathers (one about a third larger than the other) appeared on my living room floor. After the death of loved one, we are encouraged to continue focusing on the well-being of that loved one in the bardo state, rather than on our own sense of loss. About 24 hours later, in my minds eye I saw my little Alexs face his eyes were closed and I swear he was smiling! Although Im not Buddhist, I appreciated the insights you shared. My cat Alex died suddenly in 2007. Please continue to show your love and compassion to Loki and Thor. Thank you so much for this. Warm wishes, David. I think any further insights or wisdom or teachings that you can pass on this area would be very helpful. A deeper understanding and respect for all beings can only bring more light to the world. Is there an afterlife for animals? I am so grateful that I could be with him on the Sunday and in the early hours of the Monday morning to talk with him and tell him that it was fine and I would be okay. On the last day of Patchs 7 weeks, I slowly and consciously began to make changes in the house. Sounds like you were the best thing to happen To Alex and that he was a pretty remarkable phenomenon in your life too! Civil Law . I asked him why he was sitting up like that, neglecting the fact that there was something wrong. She lost her hearing about a year and a half ago, and more recently has lost her vision as well. The next day his escape was confirmed and hence my search for him began. I was overseas and still am for 2 months so was not notified he was missing even after several attempts to reach out to new owner for updates. Afterwards I broke down, naturally. As his body was enveloped by flames in the vast marble oven, Manthin lamented that Fou Fous best friend, the family cat, could not be with them to say goodbye. You may be surprised how this can help let go. ?especially horses as well . Warm wishes, David, Thank you David for this blog, and Im sorry for your loss of Mambo. Ironically, this all happened while you were in my beautiful country, SA and I was following your wonderful blogs on your time in Kruger. Warm wishes, David. After an emotional ceremony during which Manthin and her daughter, Phatcharakorn Likanrapichitkun, 20, wore black and wept freely as the monk offered the last Buddhist rites and laid a sandalwood flower on the body Fou Fou was taken for cremation. The morning of the 17/1/16 he lay in the sun at the back door, one of his favourite spots. Thank you. Wonderful that you were able to recite mantras to her at the end very special. We believe in the next life, so this ceremony is to help with reincarnation, to give them what they need.. I thanked him for spending his life with me. Most are dogs, though around 10% are cats, 5% rabbits and 3% reptiles; funerals have also been held for goldfish, catfish, monkeys, iguanas, a rooster, pigs and a small horse. Warm wishes, David, My dog, Scott, is on his last legs and i was debating euthanising him. Thank you! It felt like a really sad occasion, not a proper funeral at all just the burning and destroying the body of someone they loved like family. When a pet dies, it is taken to the meadow and restored to full health and devoid of any injuries, according to the story. Thank you so much for sharing these helpful ideas to support an animal going through transition and also of your dear, Mambo. Sixty monks and 80 guests attended the event, which featured a custom-made coffin and a motorcade funeral procession, at a total cost of 400,000 baht (9,300). By making an offering of any kind, such as feeding birds, giving to charity, or donating blood, and self-consciously offering the merit of such actions to the benefit of our recently-deceased pet, our actions can have a positive impact on their experience of the bardo realms. My husband reminded me to be calm in the 5 minutes we had after he collapsed. He curled up purring and handed over a paw and went peacefully to sleep. Theres plenty of research showing that animals perceptive abilities are, in certain respects, far more sensitive than humans. My dog died on 08 July. Your blog was so helpful and encouraging and it was great to find that I sent her off with love and compassion & prayed for her rebirth into a new wonderful existence just as you suggested. I have also been doing positive things in memory of Myrtle. One Lama said that animals experience the bardo, but in their own animal way, but I could not find further exploration of that thought. Its much better to focus on whats best for our pet, not on our own feelings of attachment. Any special advice? I had told him many times that if he felt the need to go he should do so and that I released him but for some reason he chose to stay. I suspect that the things wont be too difficult to put away or donate, but the nightlight and talking to her will be much harder to discontinue. ~ a Buddhist Homage. Best wishes to you, Rita. Hi Jill, Its hard to know what thoughts and feelings dominated her consciousness as she transitioned out of this life. If you approach this with the right motivation i.e. Sometimes I verbally speak through what is present, because it is the only way my mind wont race out of control. So sorry to hear of your loss, Vonny. I share not only Buddhist insights and some fascinating and recent scientific studies. I think you already sense the answer to your main query: we do not experience anything the same way, because we all have different karma. It was great consolation in this time of griefa grief surprisingly strong even for ourselves. Our feline friends are very special companions, arent they? You have done your best. Instead, know that you took the best decision for your cat, and that he had the most peaceful death you could provide. The life of the Buddha is rich in stories about, with, (and sometimes "as"), animals. As a veterinary nurse of many years I have attended the transition from this life with many animals, including some of my own. Easy to say, I know, but a life lived in fear is no life at all. Hi David: Sorry to say I am feeling very sad. I experienced the same tough time with our 15 years old lady cat. Because he died and had a terrible experience in a new area so far from his original home on the streets he was scared, lost and hungry. She has ceased eating, so it wont be too long now. I told her that I know that she will have a good rebirth. The mind never stops and it also moves at incredible speeds. Thank you so much, David, this has been a source of much needed guidance for me in the 2 weeks since losing my beautiful cat Rrose. Spiritual nature of animals Animals are spiritual beings who are subject to the same laws of creation, dharma and karma as humans. Warm wishes, David. This is why I said Do it now, do it fast. Also, we are going to take her to be cremated. Always such a difficult time, but its important to be strong for her and do what you can to help her through the bardo. In a very direct way, this blog led me to write Buddhism for Pet Lovers. Just today- I felt Trixie looked so bad and I called the vet to perform euthanasia at 8pm. She has become the best little dog ever. I always chant the mantra silently in my head as the injection is given and whisper kind, soft words as the animal gently relaxes and leaves us. He had also become very vocal, calling me around the house. I tried to do everything I could for him and loved him so very much but still wishing I did things differently and held on to him and never rehomed him. Sara, Hi Sara, So sorry for your loss. I tried to do all that I knew to make her comfortable and I stroked her and talked to her as she died. All my sympathy and thank you for sharing your views. I take the box of ashes to bed next to me, and continue the routine each day of what Misty did. Thank you so much for your message Herlana. Question: How does a kittie actually die? I received a couple signs from her, one of them led me to you (you share the same name), I like to think that was a sign. I have read and love your books The Dalai Lamas Cat and The Art of Purring.Thank you so much for sharing. Sometimes I still verbally narrate my actions to stay in the present moment, but it works. I am so grateful to have come across this blog as we are terribly heart sore and grieving losing him, but know that we need to create the right space for his feline siblings who remain with us. The being is completely dead. Thank you again, Jillian, I am so glad you have found this of value, Jillian. But death is inevitable for us all, so here are some spiritual practices to help you cope when your pet passes away. There were times though when Titi had a look in her eye that seemed to peer into the chamber of my heart and by return she allowed me to see her vulnerability and craving for connection. If you cut a hydra into many pieces, each bit will regrow into a complete, new individual. Just a bit of history: The first time I lost a kitty, whom I still consider my familiar, nearly 10 years ago, was very traumatic and left me with ptsd. I dont know how else to speak of this period. The Buddhist view is that subtle consciousness can remain in a bardo or intermediary state, between death and rebirth, for a period lasting from moments until up to seven weeks. I write real and fictitious stories about life, issues, love, loss, g, Crystal Tomlinsonis a wild-turned-woman-child and isnt sure if shell ever grow up. Thanks. Im glad I could offer some useful tools, Celeste. It is difficult to give generic advice about how, for example, to curb a cats instinctive predatory behaviour except by making sure the cat is well fed, content and, if necessary, entertained. Then you can Heart an article, boosting its "Ecosystem" score & helping your favorite author to get paid. Thank you so much!! When she became uncomfortable, we did choose to take her in to complete her journey. Wow such a comforting read! My mother had to take this difficult decision and is claiming herself right now that she made wrong. Recently diagnosed with hyperthyroidism and early renal failure, I see after reading this post where to focus my energy. I wanted him to know I was there but did not want him to feel my grief and see my tears by saying goodbye in his last moments of his life. away from my other house cats because I was afraid of intreoducing her and fighting etc. I was contemplating what would be best for Pooh. Warm wishes, David. A lifelong da, Anna Palmer comes from a personal background of mental health, and learned at a young ag, Amy Nelson is a 500-hour registered yoga instructor, currently teaching and practicing out of her home in. For about and hour I repeat Om Mani Peme Hung, or Om Ah Hung Benza Guru Pema Siddhi Hung. When he was almost crossing over he still sent us sweet love from his eyes. Samsara is the cycle in which all people are born, live, die and are reborn. After seven weeks, all bardo beings have moved onto their next experience of reality. And let go of the blame..love to all. Warm wishes, David. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I wish I had realised a few things about being conscious, while he was still with me. I only wonder whether im not letting him suffer too much. What a synchronicity to come across your blog just 2 weeks after my beautiful and only 3 years old cat Titi passed. Has taken me 2 years to ACCEPT she is gone and to tell her last good-bye. Pictures, food offerings, mantras? The next morning Jan. 18, 2016 the vet unfortunately stated although it appeared there was some food caught in his throat, the reason for his food being caught was due to the increased swelling. (Below: Photo-bombing my own little fur-babies, Kahlua and Narla, on the arrival of my first copy ofBuddhist for Pet Loversfrom the publisher. Sadly Narla, the ginger and white on the right, passed away in 2018. My concern is that the cremation 48 hours later may have disturbed his consciousness. (In life, he was a very telepathic animal) He still comes back and visits her. Thank you for the clarity and the vitality of this article David, Thank you so much, Neeti. A couple of my cats died when I was not home. Someone suggested Phowa if you have received the practice (youll know what Phowa is if youve received the practice!). I read your allrecent posts and it really help me to improve my knowledge and wisdom. Its a privilege to be able to share the Dharma. Apicha Taninchotikorm, 39, looked forlorn and tearful as she stroked the body of Klom Klom, another pomeranian, who had died that morning. Please enter your name and email address to get access to Free Stuff and receive my monthly newsletter. Urinating and pooping normally and infact, taking the time to bury it. Whatever has been experienced is then passed on. Thank you so much Kellie, and sorry for your loss of Kayla. Also it is more time for me to get ready for that final horrible decision. Sonja. I have a terrible sense of responsibility for what happened to him because I chose this new owner and he trusted me and I knew he didnt want to leave my house (even though I only had in inside for 1 week). Scratch is slowing down and loosing, very slowly, weight. Galen, Feb. 14, 2016 I have recently been on holiday in Spain. Your words have arrived eight days after I made the decision to release my beloved Vida, who was only eight years old Long story short, her bowel function had completely broken down, and after 13 months of trying everything short of surgery (not an option), it was time. Warm wishes, David. Any thoughts? With love and gratiude, Jillian and Indy. When our pets are in good health, the best thing we can do for them is to help them avoid creating negative karma. Thank you for this insight! Heres a few things you can do: Sign up for my newsletter. All I can offer, by way of suggestion, is to try to practice stillness or meditation with Trixie and allow nature to take its course. No wailing We may be heartbroken about losing our close companions, but its important not to upset them. Tomorrow will be seven weeks. My cat was given sedation and although I had the opportunity to speak with my cat and hold him and tell him how much I loved him and would miss him, I DID NOT DO THIS? Varunthip Manthin loved the tiny dog as much as any of her sons. Unfortunately, animal reincarnation falls . I sometimes thought she was Lassie come back, the dog I had when I was 10 (Im now 66). Afterwards I have felt tremendous grief and worry that I could have done more to help him. It really helped me and I have no doubt Oscar too. Ninja, too big for a coffin, was laid to rest under his favourite towel instead. Buddhists see the individual as a part of a whole, they believe we also have everything inside of us. Its been 2 weeks since my first post to you. WHY did I act this way? I now truly believe Myrtle had come herself on her final day to say goodbye. This is good to know. She was only 10. with Siddhartha Gautama, and over the next millennia it spread across Asia and the rest of the world. Im absolutely heartbroken but not trying to express this for his sake and attachment. A major shift occurs when we view what is happening from the perspective of our pets spiritual journey, rather than from our own understandable wish to cling to our beloved friend forever. I had a very sad childhood and Lassie kept me going. Their intelligence may not be the same as ours, but the soul in them is the same witness consciousness as ours. So, I think thats about it. We do really miss him and very very sad, he was very inteligent and loves us dearly. Cutting off thoughts versus suppressing them: whats the difference? From a Buddhist perspective, whether we are human or animal, we are constantly creating the causes for future effects, positive or negative. Warm wishes, David, David, Klom Klom had been with her half her life, even travelling to university with her. When she discovered him dead in the road having been hit by a motorbike, she was inconsolable. How we can best help our pet in the seven weeks after death. He phoned 2 days later to say although slightly high but not as high when she had not been in this state but upped meds by half every other day. For this reason, there is no standard experience of life, death or the bardo. Say the mantra Om mani padme hum and dedicate whatever merit is attained to his happy, higher rebirth. Much love All of the comments and stories help and I am very grateful. Shes the first pet Im going to lose this way, and you were unbelievably helpful to me. The Five Precepts are the Buddhist version of a code of conduct or rules to help people behave in a moral and ethical way. I have also said goodbye to beloved pets, and every time death is such an impressive moment and teaching. Thank you David for this insightful blog. From where? David, I said goodbye to our beloved shepherd three weeks ago today. -KK, Thank you so much, Kristen. Natty Frasca is a Pleasure-Pumping + Mind-Bending Sorceress. I wrote to you earlier about my dog Myrtle who died on 08 July. I told him Id much rather cat-ize myself, I think many of us humans would fare better. My husband and I held a short time of remembrance this evening, with meaningful items placed around a special candle. Warm wishes, David. Please protect and guide (your animals name) on her journey. Thank you so much for this message, Kathleen. He wanted to be sure I wasnt delusional by asking if my usual vet had seen her recently. Animals seem to know about death and in some cases seem to accept it. Thank you David. I only wish I had been able to read this at the time as I was her as she died. What would you recommend for long distance? I realise now that I should have spent more time with him in his last months and not on trivial things or people who were really not important to me. We miss Quincy so much. Thank you for your wise words. Love and Compassion alleviates the suffering Of All sentient Beingsthose who have been our Mothers and our Fathers. Dream messages (in which an animal usually appears . Prayers and sympathy for you Indy. I kissed him so many times, patted him, reassured him he will be ok and we will see each other again, and told him again and again that I loved him so much and I hoped we would see each other again some time. It occurred to me that it was exactly 7 weeks since Myrtle had died. So I felt I must do something, he said. Im trying to remain present through the tears and the longing. With the guidance in here, I was able to be in service to her in final moments, which was very comforting to me. I love your books and have given them to friends as a hint about the Dharma. I believe it will comfort her and give her an anchor. I was meditating beside him and reciting Pali Buddhist verses (refuges) beside him in the hours preceding his death. On Mindful Safari we combine game drives and magical encounters with lion, elephant, giraffe, and other iconic wildlife, with inner journeys exploring the nature of our own mind. I lost my pet, Nina, 8 year old Boxer suddenly, just like that. I took her to the vets in her bed and couldnt bear to bring it back home. Thank you for this insightful post, David. I left the prayer at her tiny tomb along with biscuits and her favourite sweets. Thank you. As I write this, she is snuggled up against me purring. Thank you all, Our cat, recently passed away this year at the age of 21 and I found this article really beautiful and a great comfort to me. There are also a few very practical things we can do. It was a very traumatic process and somehow I found the strength to help him on his journey in very calm and positive way at home. Jillian and Indy I so understand what you say my 18 year old had hyperthyroidism it seems itivery common in older cats, who like humans are living longer. He must not have got any sleep. Again, thank you and I will let you know what and when she leaves us, Thank you for keeping us posted, Galen! Barb, My pleasure, Barb. I have been careful not to let her see or hear me cry since she and I share a strong bond. I find myself in fear often, and then I know I have to exit to another place to put myself back together. Thank you and may you be well, happy and peaceful. My cat was still going outside and walking and running around in the backyard. Warm wishes, David, David, First of all let me thank you again for all your loving, understanding, sensitive, and respectful responses. Warm wishes, David. Dear Bridget, Your action was obviously not intentional, and she will have understood that. The traditions associated with the 49 days after death in Buddhism derive from "The Tibetan Book of the Dead," also known as the "Bardo Thodol.". although it felt like the right thing to do at that moment and my cat saw & felt I was there, breathing distance away, I did not hold him or speak with him moments before he left our world. Thank you so much for this very insightful post and the beautiful prayer, it sums up everything that I could wish for my beloved Titi. Can you please help me understand how this is supportive for her or what this can do? What I realize now is to now with your blog is not to go to the ethunsia time ahead of time for the rid of the unpleasant part of it all. How wonderful that gratitude is your enduring experience. I believe I did this with another cat years ago. I think youd find Tulku Thondups book Peaceful death, Joyful Rebirth full of wisdom on this subject. The dog stared into my eyes and licked me. The doctrine of rebirth held that any human could be reborn as animal, and any animal could be reborn as a human. We went to the vet and they found a large tumour in his stomach. poor little thing, he didnt sleep. Published December 12, 2014 Do all dogs go to heaven? And clearly you appreciate mindfulness with a sense of humor and integrity! Buddhism for Pet Lovers. Warm wishes, David. His eyes were shut with that most recognisable look in his face that he was tired. Thanks David. Hey, thanks so much for reading! Things may well have moved on by now, but your instincts are right to avoid euthanasia. Perhaps your beloved Mambo and Pixie have met up and are probably talking about us. Just wish he could be rebirthed with me! Read the Prologue and Chapter One of Awaken the Kitten Within here. I am so grateful that I got that time to spend with him, little knowing it was our last few weeks together. The Buddhist view. Did my overly loved cat understand? It made me cry. NAMO SUGATA RATNA SHIKHIN I pray for her everyday. Warm wishes, David. Euthanasia In a short blog its not possible to debate all the considerations of euthanasia. It is fascinating how similar the process is as we go through the pain of losing a relative or a family member. It was comforting to know that there is, in Buddhism, a similar practice that values this. Thank you for your insight. I am grateful for your good counsel. David, can you please explain what you mean by the greatest shifts in the bardo state? I found him and he was wild and had to hold him with gloves for he would bite and scratch. Mymother who lived with us asked what we were doing. (modern), Pimpha Darakon Na Ayuttha (left) and her daughter Nathanee, say goodbye to Ninja during a ceremony in Bangkok. I am mourning and I know that I didnt do everything perfectly but I tried my best. Her feline family, especially the two boys who slept beside her at night seem to still be grieving, but not as much. | "Elephant Journal" & "Walk the Talk Show" are registered trademarks of Waylon H. Lewis, Enterprises. Phatcharakorn Likanrapichitkun says a final goodbye to Fou Fou before he is consigned to the flames. Dear Cheryl, It sounds like you are doing all you possibly can for Kiera and that she is very lucky to have you as her death midwife, easing her transition to whatever happens next. Cats go off to hide under the house. At the moment, Im caught between denial and great sadness. Aa she had hyperthyroidism I took her to the vet for checks to see if meds needed increasing. It creates room to include all beings and to see them as equal and to my friend as a cat and not as a human. Instead, a compassionate and trusted veterinarian helped Quincy pass at the clinic where we rushed him after he went into severe respiratory distress. You can still practice generosity, recite mantras and dedicate the merit of your positive actions for your animal companions wellbeing. He seriously wanted details! Welcoming her home any time. Youll hear from me once or twice a month with blogs and other news designed to be stimulating and useful. Animals have always been regarded in Buddhist thought as sentient beings. Suggesting ways in which we can help them cultivate their own inner lives. Again, I want to thank you, and also to give gentle, kind energy to the others posting here. I say that for her. Mr F will be leaving two of his birth children here when he must go, and they are very dependent on him, even after six years of becoming part of our household. Yesterday I was holding him and now his in Heaven.. Is there something I can do to make sure he will be in good hands next life or that he will have everything ok. So sorry for your loss, Kathleen. I am delighted to share the Introduction of my book, Buddhism for Pet Lovers: Supporting Our Closest Companions through Life and Death. I still think I hear him sometimes at night and I do miss him. It is up to us to get to know our animal companions as well as were able and help however we can. Those moments were priceless and the bond that Titi and I have is beyond words. She was never a lapcat, on the contrary she was very shy and anti-social. Our rescue moggy developed renal failure and we had to eventually have him euthenised. Have a look at theFree Stuff sectionof my website. On 16/1/16 I was too busy doing my own timewasting and senseless things away from the house. And yet, when he lies down, he seems to be fine. Ive been so blessed. I have experienced my past Bunny pet coming to visit me, and my new Bunny kid coming running in jealousy to take the place, so pets/animals are certainly sensitive to mind! When you heart, comment or share, the article's "Ecosystem" score goes uphelping it to be seen by more readers & helping the author to get paid. Not forgetting In the bardo realms, free of physical constraint, it is said that our subtle consciousness/energy is capable of moving anywhere very rapidly and perceiving anything a form of clairvoyance. Sadly, I lost another cat 2 weeks ago, Ziggy to the same awful feline leukaemia. I did everything possible to try and heal my 18 year old cat who was diagnosed with oral squamous cell carcinoma in Oct 2015. In relation, you could also buy animals that are going to be killed (like bait worms for instance) and set them free. You may be interested in the work of BrightHaven animal hospice in California. No teachers yet they seem to know. My dog Charlie died last Wednesday. 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